Add the butter, coconut and nuts to a skillet and toast on medium high heat until golden brown, about 10 minutes. Let it cool.
Add your softened cream cheese to a bowl and give it a few turns with the mixer to whip it up a bit
Add your Cool Whip and sweetened condensed milk and mix on low until mixed and creamy
Divide the pie mixture evenly between the prepared graham cracker crusts
Add your M&M's